Hello people, I feel happy to write my first blog as I read through the book “The Saint, The Surfer and the CEO” by Robin Sharma. Though the points mentioned in the text may not be applicable for all human beings, but stand true somewhat at least in my case. It’s about how we stop being ourselves, how we live and grow up somewhat unnatural and superficial life. Fake smile, fake actions and things like that. The following excerpt is communication between two fictional characters Jack Valentine and Cal who meet up at a hospital. Cal, suffering from Cancer, is a quite optimistic person and gives these fundas to Jack who’s just survived from an accident. Cal recollects the principles which he has been following for living a happy life. Here it goes: _____________________________________________
Cal said, “You know, most of us deny our feelings. Society has taught us to do that. From a young age, we divorce ourselves from the way we feel. We’re told not to cry, we’re told not to laugh too loud, and we’re told that it’s wrong to feel sad or even to experience our anger. But our feelings are neither right nor wrong- they’re simply our feelings, and an essential part of the human experience. Deny them and you begin to shut down parts of yourself. Keep doing that and you’ll lose the connection to who you truly are. You’ll begin living completely in your head, and you’ll stop feeling.”
Cal stopped for a moment and looked me in the eye. “I’d be willing to bet, Jack, that all you do, all day long, is think, think, think. Your mind is a nonstop chattering machine, and you have no inner peace. You’ve stopped living in the present moment and feeling what it’s like to be fully alive-you’re too busy living in the past or in the future. Did you know that the mind rarely lives in the present moment? It’s always worrying about the past or thinking about the future. But that stuff isn’t real. All that’s real is the moment right in front of you. Don’t miss that moment, because that’s where your life is.”
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In my case, the reason may not be as specified by the author (i.e. society influencing), but feel the reason may be the wrong conclusions I derived from my surroundings. Didn’t have many close friends since childhood and with my neutral interactions with everyone, learnt to live a very neutral life, i.e. neither too dull nor too excited. Think have most of the times analyzed and argued about things only within me and followed what I have thought. Have to open up more, become an extrovert to some extent. Talk to people. But don’t feel have lost much meanwhile. The only thing is I have to learn to enjoy every moment, i.e. learn to live in PRESENT. Sometimes, I find myself a somewhat confused person not knowing exactly who I am or what I want. Hope I be successful in search for my real identity.
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